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Unlike most vacation rental villas in Phuket, The Coolwater does not have rules preventing you from bringing a date home to the villa.

However, here are some tips that might help your dealings with “bar girls” go more smoothly. We have learned this from experience.

Not every girl in the bar is a prostitute

Actually, Thailand is a very pious country and most women are not there for your pleasure. You should be respectful. But that said, the real point here is that there are girls you will meet that will go back to your villa to hang out with you – and they will do this for money. However hanging out may be all they will do.

If you meet someone at the bar and you want to take them home, then be specific about your expectations and get this agreed upon before you get in the taxi.

We have seen conflict with previous guests that brought girls up to the place with no agreement to actually engage in physical acts. When the girls wanted to leave, the guests tried to force themselves on them. A fight ensued. Just make sure that you have a clear understanding of what the girls have promised before you hire them. Also, do not hire a girl for conversation and expect you can change the situation later when they are at the villa.

Watch your belongings

Our staff normally does not allow the girls to leave the villa after you fall asleep without checking their purses. This is to protect you and your belongings. To avoid this, you should escort the girls out of the villa yourself. Or let them stay into the next morning after you awaken. But think hard about why a hired girl would want to stay in your place for the night after you have gone to sleep unless you paid for it. One tip is to hire girls that work for the bars. That way you know where to find them if something turns up missing.

Clarify the price

Sometimes there is an argument about price. If the girls feel they were underpaid, they may return with their managers to extract more money from you. I suggest asking them to write the price on a piece of paper in their handwriting and keep that paper. If they want more money later, show them the paper. If they still want more money and/or bring their managers, then call the estate manager immediately. She will talk to them. In general, always call her if you feel you need help.

Don’t trust pictures

We have heard of situations in which guests went to a bar in Patong and found they were not interested in the girls there. They were approached by someone recommending another place. This person showed pictures of the girls there. The guests agreed to ride with the person to the other bar. The girls at the bar were not the ones in the picture and the guests were forced to pay anyway. In a case like this, you need to clarify that you will not pay anything if you are not attracted to the girls, and you need to do this before you get in the car.

Stay out of trouble and arguments

Prostitution is technically illegal in Thailand. If you get into a situation that results in police interference, remember that they may side with the girl. Since hiring a prostitute puts you in violation of the law, they can have some pretty serious leverage on you.

Use the web

If this is your first experience in Thailand with the local “resources”, then read up on the web before you arrive. There are a lot of blogs and other web sites that can give you loads of practical advise. While the attitude of some of these writers can be crass and cynical, they do have practical experience to share. Here is one of many examples…

Thailand Red Cat

If you are going to fall for her, keep your eyes open

Your experience with a Thai bar girl will most likely be much more personal than what you might expect. Many will want to see you again and the financial arrangement may evolve to something closer to a regular girlfriend. That’s ok, but make sure you understand the big picture and don’t fool yourself. Your previous dating experience is probably not going to prepare you well for this. I suggest you read the article above if you think you need to learn more. We have had guests that interpreted their new relationships differently than the Thai girls viewed it.

This seems obvious, but…

Make sure she’s a girl – or more exactly – that she is equipped with the kind of hardware that you are interested in. If you later learn that there is a surprise you were not expecting, please consider that is not her fault. Live and let live. But it is a your job to know what you’re getting in to.

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About our staff

I previously said that you should call our staff if you get into trouble. But you should note that they are just as interested in the well-being the girls as they are of yours. Many, if not most guests, are the actual source of the problem and we are not going to help a guest cheat them.

The staff cannot obtain the girls for you. That would change the nature of their jobs and our villas. You need to find them on your own. It is not a hard thing to find.

Lastly, The Coolwater and its staff are not responsible to take care of you if you get into trouble or arguments. The same goes for your belongings. In some circumstances, We will try to help, but this is your party and you need to own it.

Pat Styles

I am director of The Coolwater Resort in Phuket, Thailand. However I spent most of my life as a software engineer working for a very large company in Redmond, Washington. Now I live with my wife in beautiful Chiang Mai near the mountains while still dabbling in the computer industry when I have the time.